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MrProMan

I noticed some of my friends around here are adopting children even they have their own kids. hmm baby.gif
Gigi
I don't have any so, its an option I will look into at some point.
Kirklander
Pro, get your nassy self out of that crib !
Dee
I've always wanted to adopt kids since I was in High School. I think it's a great idea.

Like Hugh Jackmon said there's a lot of minority kids in America that don't get adopted. Hugh himself has adopted two mixed race American children. A black/white son and white/mexican daughter.
Arizona Mildman
I am not of that age, but if I was married, was wanting to have children again ( my two are grown now, 20 years apart in age ) it would definitely be an option for two reasons. First there are plenty of kids already here who need a family. Second, I used to work as a medical claims processor. I have been through plenty of pregnancies where they were my kid or not but when I worked with claims I saw everything that can go wrong during a pregnancy and birth situation. I should also mention I am somewhat discriminate on this question because I was adopted. I was raised by some decent people and am glad I didn't grow up in an orphanage or end up with a group home or something negative. I was adopted at 2 months and so never knew anything about my real parents. I just think of my "foster parents" as my parents because the one thing I needed was to know I was loved. They did that in spades. We, like everyone does in families had plenty of loud discussions but in the end I ended up respecting them. I am a grateful person to have been brought up by two kind of backward Texans who were of Scottish and Scotch/Irish decent and I am of Italian and British national heritage. Some people had made the mistake of saying something about how it is different on how much you care about your children if they were yours naturally childborn and let my mom hear them. Mild mannered woman until she heard something insinuating she wasn't a real parent. I guess that is a myth among some people. Some people who have kids naturally aren't decent parents, so that part isn't what matters.
AZ

QUOTE (MrProMan @ Apr 29 2009, 03:21 PM) *
I noticed some of my friends around here are adopting children even they have their own kids. hmm baby.gif

justme
After having 2 kids of my own and helping to raise my stepson. If I got the inclination to have another child or two I would definitely adopt. There has always been reports about how kids that are of mixed race or African American are the hardest to get adopted and it breaks my heart. It would have to be an ideal situation though meaning money was not a concern and the family relationships would have to be totally stable. I wouldn't bring another child into the family any other way.
Cocoa Suga
When I start my career and I'm stable I would.
MystereDancer
To be honest I don't really know.I'd have to do some soul searching on that one.
I have three children and a beautiful ready made daughter. All are grown(except one), to adopt at this point would mean a major lifestyle change for the both of us. But who knows what the future will bring.....
I have great respect and admiration for those who are parents within their hearts in search of children to raise
MystereDancer
misslala2007
I plan on adopting after I am married, doing great in my career and have one child already.
siditty
QUOTE (MrProMan @ Apr 29 2009, 04:21 PM) *
I noticed some of my friends around here are adopting children even they have their own kids. hmm baby.gif



My mother and father just recently adopted two kids. Now they have four children 33, 25, 11, 10. That is quit a stretch. They are 2 of my cousin's biological kids. My mother didn't want them in foster care so she went to West Virginia to get them and now they got them, a girl and a boy.

For me and my husband adoption is becoming an option for us.I have been pregnant twice, and just recently lost a baby girl at 20 weeks gestation. It is devastating to have such a loss and the idea of going through that again is too much to take. I do however want children, so adoption is a possibility for us.
siditty
QUOTE (Dee @ Apr 29 2009, 06:34 PM) *
I've always wanted to adopt kids since I was in High School. I think it's a great idea.

Like Hugh Jackmon said there's a lot of minority kids in America that don't get adopted. Hugh himself has adopted two mixed race American children. A black/white son and white/mexican daughter.


There are a lot of mixed race and black children in the system. That is one thing I am fighting over, because typically speaking black kids are on the bottom of the totem pole. What baffles me is that two black parents who look to adopt will tend to take a mixed race child over a black one to ensure good hair or light skin. That is sad to me that there is this hierarchy of what is preferred.

There are also a lot of older kids in foster care, but every one tends to want babies so they get overlooked and stay in the warped foster system for years at a time. My little bro and sis were in foster care for a year and a half, and both had been in over 20 different foster homes. They try not to keep kids in one place too long, so that they will not get too attached to the foster parents. Foster homes can be good, but there are plenty not so good ones, where the purpose of fostering is to obtain a paycheck, not care for a child. It is depressing.
FoxCB
I always wanted to have 2 of my own and adopt one ( I have had that plan since I was 14). When I met my husband, he only wanted 2 kids, so we compromised: have one of our own and adopt one. We talked about what kind of child we wanted to adopt. I would like a black or a biracial baby. As of right now, it isnt so much the race of the baby but where. I would love to adopt domestically but a lot of adoption agencies have/promote open adoptions which is something me and my husband are not too fond of. International adoptions are mostly closed but sometimes, depending on the country, medical history of the parents may not be available. So right now we are discussing whether to adopt domestically or internationally and we will go from there but adoption is definitely something we are going to do.
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